Help in Dealing with the trauma and loneliness of seperation and rejectionI

[Warrior4Him]

Iwas just hoping to get some input on how to deal with a sepration after being married for 23 years.Iknow that I have to trust God for one and have faith that He will see me through. But sometimes my Faith is weak.

[Rico]

Brother, just give it all to God. Go pour your heart out to Him in prayer. He's the Comforter.

[Warrior4Him]

Thank you Bro.Rico but I'm a sister and it was the Bro. that found someone else. I am really trying to trust God and get over the hurt thank you for your prayers.

[Rico]

I caught that after I posted. So sorry.

[Cherokee]

Thank you Bro. Rico as she is just now learning to operate a computer and communicate with others. I know she will be able to find strength in talking and praying with those on GNC and get back up again in faith. Love ya' in Jesus!! Cherokee

[cinthia]

Hi Dear Sister,
First and formost, I am sorry that you are going through this. Do you have homegroups in your church? I think it is so important to have people you can talk to and who are there to listen and to cry with you and to minister to you.I also would recommend a Book to you by Dave Huston, It is is called "The Sons of Oil" Dave Huston Is my pastor and I could send you the book if you would like! My prayers are with you!

[ddc101]

Sister,
It isn't easy to give up all your hopes and dreams.Things that were twenty three years in the making are hard to let go of.But Jesus is able to help you overcome.
One of the things you want to do is not isolate yourself.Get up early and pray and dress nice and do your hair.I don't know if you work or are able to work but a job is a nice thing to have when you are single.I have been there.I had a little boy and praise the Lord we made it.When someone wants something other than you it can make you feel insecure and as though you were not enough to meet their needs.Sister that isn't true because the marriage relationship should get more comfortable and loving as it progresses.It becomes something different than it first was when you were newlyweds.Some folks don't want to develop this way.They feel if they can't feel that first attraction and spark that they are out of love.But love is not that first spark that they felt.Love is a progressive thing and committment is a great part of it.We all grow older.We all change.Marriage itself evolves if I may use the word.I love my husband more and in a much different way than when we first met.But if he were to die I would remain single because great loves don't just happen everyday.Do not let the enemy put depression or suicide upon you.Just praise the Lord daily and things will get better.God knew this was a head as he knows all things so just trust him.lv sis.c

[Cherokee]

Dear Sister, Thank you and yes I would love for you to send me the book.And I also appreicate your prayers,also pray that God will bless me mentaly, physically and financely through this storm 3171/2 Thomas St. Center Texas 75935.I never in a million years would have dreamed that this would ever happen to me.I know that I have to hold on to God. He has brought me this far and I know He will carry me through.As long as I put my faith and trust in Him. God Bless you.please keep me in your prayers this is warrior 4Him.writing under cherokee as I forgot to log in I am new at this so please forgive me

[John Atkinson]

Sons of Oil is a good book. Recommended.

[jhlent]

TLee,
Sister sometimes the loneliness just doesn’t seem to stop.
It at time will become so overbearing and hard to cope with.
Please be careful in these time – because it is then you are most vulnerable.
Please also be careful in your anguish and with your hurt feelings because they will get out of hand, and hard to control.

Forgiveness here is a Big Must……
1 – of Him
2 – of Her
3 – of Yourself
The blame game is one of the cruelest games to get involved with.
Stop thinking about what You should have done – but – start thinking about what Your going to do.

Make your self accountable to someone during these times – it helps.

Not knowing where you are in this time – it is hard to comment.

But always know one thing that God still has a plan for your life.
Trust Him in this. –
He said that they are plans to prosper you and that they are also plans not to harm you.
He also say that He desires to give You a HOPE and a FUTURE

[Diana]

I am also Praying for you sister.This is so sad..Remember God is in control of all things...Please know this.
Love In Jesus Name!
Lord Bless,
Di

[milady]

I will surely pray for you.

[tufluv]

Yes, that kind of pain can be so brutal, yet, there is nothing that GOD cannot make better. You must re-focus away from that chapter of your life (I know its hard)...and look forward to the one GOD has in mind. Nothing happens without a reason HE has known from your beginning. Trust in the one who also knows your end.

Throw yourself into GOD'w WORD like never before, pray fervently, throw yourself at HIS feet! I've gone through something similar, and I was surprised at how well the LORD helped me handle it, I was given the HG the day after that crisis-the Comforter sprang into action! Hallelujah!

You may feel rejected by a man, but at least GOD never will! HE deserves all the honor and glory; your undivided attention and praises!
I am praying for you. GOD can and will answer prayer. Believe it.

[Warrior4Him]

Thanks for all your prayers,
Please continue to pray for me as I am still in the storm,and I need God to help me get all the way through this.and yes I am Praying for God to help me have a forgiving heart, AS I really and truly pray for them both,
I know God is with me as I really can't find myself angry at them just hurting.
I have ask God what I did to deserve this but I am not the one that did anything.So I do pray for Gods will in my life and I am ready to do what He want's me to do.
I am tired of just setting around. I think it' time to go out and win some souls and quit looking back and tring to figure it out

[ddc101]

Warrior just rest in the Lord and love him and serve him and develop and even closer relationship with him.The enemy wants to shake you faith through this all.Do not let him.He is the loser not you.You have no idea what the future holds.Let go of all of it.Give it all to Jesus and wait on him.He has a blessing for the faithful.Even if you may not have been as dedicated to Jesus in the past today which I don't know if that be the case but today is a new day and a new life and a new beginning.I see promises and rainbows ahead for you.lv sis.c

[jhlent]

Originally posted by Warrior4Him
Please continue to pray for me as I am still in the storm,

Always remember that You are NOT alone in the Storm
- Even though you may feel like it
- Your NOT alone


I pray that the Lord will lift your blinders to see the Multitude that stands with You.

That had been my troubles for the first 5 yrs.
Please don’t make the same mistake.

[Warrior4Him]

I know that I'm not alone,
but sometimes the pain and heartache just come.
I am praying for God to strengthen me ,I know that when I feel like I am in this alone He is carrying me.
I am praying that God helps me to move on.
I want to do what God wants me to do.
Sis. Dever (aka known as my mom)is always telling me to get Terry out of the way and let God do what He is ready for me to do..
I want to do whatever He wants me to do. I am ready to go to new heights with Him.

[Diana]

Hello Sister!
Listen to your Mom..God's trying to save you from years of heartache farther down the road.:cry:

Let him be..

God knows what's best better than we..
All My Love & Prayers.
Hugs
Di

[Jamele]

Warrior, I realize I am reviving an older thread... but I just wanted you to know that my heart hurts for you. I can not even imagine the pain, loneliness, and all other emotions that go with such a tragic experience.

I'm sure it can be damaging emotionally, financially, psychologically, and physically, but you don't have to let it damage you spiritually. The devil will use anything and everything he can to get you down. And he knows what to use against you the most right now.

Some days, it must be hard to keep your faith soaring high. I truly believe that if you seek the face of Jesus, and do your very best, He will increase your faith and bless you tremendously! He loves you so much more than even your closest and dearest friends, and He wants you to be happy. He is able to bring you through this trial to victory, and give you peace, JOY, hope, stronger faith, and more wisdom than you have ever had.

May the Lord bless you beyond your wildest dreams, sister! Get ready, it's coming!