What do you do to make your homelife wonderful for your husband??

[Just Jesus]

My husband works LONG hours and is very stressed. I want to make his home life wonderful. Tonight I'm cooking his favorite foods and deserts. What else can I do? What do you DO?

[Apostolic Kitty]

An after dinner dessert in the privacy of your own bedroom... Lose the clothes...

[Felicity]

AK......what a perfectly scandalous idea. Hehehe. :goof:

[ddc101]

I like to draw a hot bath for my husband and give him private time away from the noise and gossip.lv sis.c

[Apostolic Kitty]

Scandalous and fun, my dear Felicity... ;)

[jayerb]

I've found just 'being there' whenever he needs me to 'whatever' has always been the best way to make my marriage work.

[ddc101]

Hi Sis.Jaye,
Being a good listener is a cultivated skill but honestly husbands need this the most.He needs a sounding board.lv sis.c

[Just Jesus]

Sis. C.

Yes, you are right, a husband really needs a sound board. I try to do my best at being a sound board, but sometimes it really gets to me. I start feeling depressed or anxious etc.

[milady]

LOL Abosutely nothing.
I don't have a husband:D

[pentecostal mom]

I try to have the kids occupied so they are not jumping all over daddy and have the house straightened and calm when he comes home he enjoys having down time where he doesn't do anything but sit down and relax for about 30 minutes or so. Then he is ready to enjoy us. I try to take all the pressure off him that I can any task that I can do without troubling him I do it.

[Felicity]

I asked my husband different times over the years we've been married what I could do to be the "perfect" wife for him. If there was anything I wasn't doing that I could do or do better......and so on.

My husband always gave me the same answer. It was very simple.

He told me that as long as I loved him, loved and looked after the children and the house - he was happy.

I was always surprised when he said that because I thought, "Surely there's something more I can do to be more pleasing to him."

But nope ---- *s* --- and I think it's true that a LOT of men just want the simple things.....a wife who loves him, loves the kids, looks after him and them and the house.......which includes of course preparing good home-cooked meals.

Simple. But then most men are.

Just kidding of course. :goof:

[ddc101]

So true Sister.I know marriages that are breaking up right now because the wife refuses to cook or clean the house.Its sad when
you don't want to try anymore.Its one thing when you have to work but when you are a stay at home mom you should be cleaning and cooking.But honestly depression and oversceduling will cause you to neglect your basic responsibilities.lv sis.c

[Apostolic Kitty]

Yes, depression can be a pretty terrible thing...

[dllong]

I want you all to leave your husbands and marry me!

You all sound like wonderful women!

(hehehe)

Bro. Dave

[Goodshepherd]

Haha........... these are really sound advice:)

That is how I hope to treat my husband when I get married:)

Love GS

[christian1]

I take care of things like bills, cleaning, the lawn at times ( we have 6 acres) and let him do the things he likes to do. He likes to rebuild RV's from the inside, and likes his computer. We are both are 50 and have learned you don't have to be with someone all the time to know they are there and love you. I work out of my house and keep grandkids also. He is there to do anything I ask him to do so don't get the idea he doesn't do anything around the house. He will stop anything he is doing to help me, and the same is true for me in helping him.:)

[ddc101]

Sister you are so right that you don't have to be in view all the time to still know you love each other.That is called maturity in love.Love does not remain the same over the years it just get better.lv sis.c

[Qwizcoach]

Besides keeping house and making dinner I have found that if my husband seems really tired or stressed after work that a nice full body massage is ALWAYS greatly appreciated. It relaxes him and helps him de-stress easily!

[Renee]

What if your husband is at home with you ALL the time. My job is to take care of my husband and at times things can get hairy. We have no kids :( so, it is just the two of us. There are times I don't feel like I can do anything right. He helps me with as much housework as possible, but that isn't much. He does cook though, which is a good thing because I can't. So, what are your suggestions for someone who is with her husband ALL the time????

[ddc101]

A Man who can cook is worth his weight in gold! Sister you are blessed.You cannot be together all the time.The thing I did when I did not work was landscape my yard.You do not need alot of money to do so.But honestly if you are home together all the time can you possibly get a part time job? It would help you and him not to be together all the time.
There have been times when my husband was unemployed and it drove me nuts....hey we all are allowed a few nutty moments.It also drove him nuts....He had to do something.
So he became self employed and bought a few good vaccumn systems with carpet cleaning machines and voila...Carpet cleaning company...Thats just the kind of husband I have though.
He is very creative.
What I did during these times is try to lift his spirits with words etc.There is nothing a good prayer meeting cannot solve.lv sis.c

[Renee]

Originally posted by ddc101
A Man who can cook is worth his weight in gold! Sister you are blessed.You cannot be together all the time.

But honestly if you are home together all the time can you possibly get a part time job? It would help you and him not to be together all the time.

Yes, I am blessed to have a man that cooks. I thank the Lord because I can't cook very much.

As for a part time job, I forgot to mention that my husband is disabled. When I said that my job was to take care of him, that was the truth. I stay home and take care of him in case something happens to him. We have been married for just over 4 years. He became disabled four months after we got married and I have taken care of him since then. So, for basically four years, we have been together nonstop. I guess you have to be a different kind of person to do something like that. I don't know what kind of person...:cool:

I don't do yard work, so any other suggestions????

[ddc101]

Well sister you could become an awesome prayer warrior.I know its hard to be together all the time.I am a nurse for handicapped children.Sometimes when your are with someone for seven days twelve to thirteen hours a day frustration can set in.But then I think about how much worse my life could be and begin to count my blessings.lv sis.c

[Renee]

Originally posted by ddc101
Well sister you could become an awesome prayer warrior.I know its hard to be together all the time.I am a nurse for handicapped children.Sometimes when your are with someone for seven days twelve to thirteen hours a day frustration can set in.But then I think about how much worse my life could be and begin to count my blessings.lv sis.c

I never said I was frustrated. I only said that at times, things get a little hairy. EVERY marriage has it's hairy moments. I love my husband very much. I just wanted to know if anyone had any suggestions about things I could do around the house that would be projects of my own (other than CLEANING). I am not a very crafty person and I don't have a lot of money. I just wondered if anyone had any ideas. Thanks.

[Apostolic Kitty]

Only you can answer that, Renee. What do you like to do?

[Cherokee]

From you and your husbands post I can tell you both are prayer warriors.

Since he likes the computer and you both are sensitive to other folks needs, use it to minister and encourage others.

Become aggressive for God and build a ministry for others that are walking in similar shoes.

Your situation is not the only one like it so there are more that need the same kind of encouragement and help.

As for crafts etc. you might find some things to make that would bring extra income that are simple. (such as small jars of homemade jellies and if someone has all the supplies and not the time to do it for themselves.

Holidays are great for making cakes,pies and candies for those of us that work and are willing to purchase or pay another to do our baking etc.

You both might consider getting someone to come for half a day once a week that you can just get out and do something out of the ordinary.

Find several couples that you can form a twice a month get together with, where everyone brings a covered dish and play games that you enjoy or just visit.

These are just suggestions but GNC has members everywhere and this one knows that one so we should be able to make contact to some one close to you and Bro. JW.

Love Ya' in Jesus!!! Also how is the baby that got burned? Have been praying for them all...Cherokee

[Renee]

Thank you so much for the suggestions, I appreciate them. I will consider them. :)

As for the baby, there have been all kinds of posts on that thread. It is too much to get into, so you might just want to go and look at the thread for yourself. You will understand when you get there.

Thanks again. God bless.

[Renee]

Cherokee,
Your ideas have sparked something in me. I am thinking about making a list of things that I like to bake (and can bake) and seeing if anyone at my mom's work would order from me. They always want her to bake them stuff at the holidays, but she is so busy, I thought maybe I could do it this year. It would bring in a little extra money. We aren't going to have a traditional Christmas with presents, but it would still be nice to have a few extra bucks. JW's mom and dad are home together all the time too (in Alabama), but at Christmas time she crouchettes (not sure on spelling) hand towels. They are so cute and sell like crazy. I don't know how to spell the word let alone do it, so that one is out for me. But, I do know how to bake, so I might give that one a try. Thanks for the ideas. God bless.

[ddc101]

Sister Renee,
At one time we were both unemployed and doing outreach work full time.We acutally lived on selling and baking cakes from scratch.We would go out and take orders and come home and bake them and deliver.Ten bucks a cake back in the early nineties.
We made about two hundred a week profit in cakes.Amen.lv sis.c

[Renee]

I may not do the baking. I don't want to charge too much for stuff, but JW says I will loose money if I don't. I want people to buy my stuff, but I feel if it is costs a lot people won't buy it. I don't know what to do. We spent a LOT of time up the other night trying to figure out something I could do as a hobby. I have no idea what I am going to do, maybe NOTHING. :shrug:

[BurningforJesus]

Sister Renee, if your baking is good, people will buy it because it is good. If you are going to sell, it you need to make a profit to make it worth while. I am sure the people will buy it. Then your reputation will get know and you will be inundated with orders.
I used to make Brandy Snaps. You know the ones that you roll on a stick, when hot and then when cool, pipe whipped cream into the holes. MMmmmm!!. But they are fiddly. I used to sell them without cream in them to the people after church. They were very popular and funded my faith promise for a number of months.
Baking is a good way to raise money, ezpecially if you are good at it. Nothing like a challenge.
If that is not for you, I am sure the Lord will open up a door of opportunity for you.
Burning.

[Renee]

Thanks for the encouragment.

[ReneeP]

I know when my husband comes home after a long day of work, the last thing they want to hear as soon as they walk in the door is how much money is nOT in bank, the car needs brakes, Joey got in a fight today, the dog ran away from home, and by the way theres no dinner tonight because the oven is broke. OH MY GOODNESS! Ladies I KNOW believe me I KNOW we have hard days too but I know all my husband wants to do is come in, get cleaned up, sit down for alittel while tro unwind, have dinner and then he is ready to talk. And then as catwoman so temptedly put it...have dessert in the bedroom :cool:

[Apostolic Kitty]

I know when my husband comes home after a long day of work, the last thing they want to hear as soon as they walk in the door is how much money is nOT in bank, the car needs brakes, Joey got in a fight today, the dog ran away from home, and by the way theres no dinner tonight because the oven is broke. OH MY GOODNESS! Ladies I KNOW believe me I KNOW we have hard days too but I know all my husband wants to do is come in, get cleaned up, sit down for alittel while tro unwind, have dinner and then he is ready to talk.
LOL

I am the one working right now while my husband is in school full time and I feel the same way -- when I come home I want to unwind. I don't wanna hear problems or get into petty fights or anything else stressful.

One of my pet peeves is that my husband sometimes calls me at work to tell me about this problem or that problem or the other problem. I used to fuss at him for it every time, but have come to the conclusion in the last couple of months that he calls me because he feels he needs to talk about these things when they bother him and I am the one he chooses to talk to.....

So, though it really bothers me more times than not, I am trying to just listen and be supportive when he does. I find he is more able to manage his feelings when I do.

And then as catwoman so temptedly put it...have dessert in the bedroom :cool:
I do still advocate that. :yeah:

[striving2bgodly]

I breathe....:bow:

[Truthseeker]

I'm easy to please. I just want her there when I get home. I'm not hard to please when cooking for either.

[lellingsworth]

My husband works LONG hours and is very stressed. I want to make his home life wonderful. Tonight I'm cooking his favorite foods and deserts. What else can I do? What do you DO?

Tell him, "Thank you for being my friend."

[NanaRenan]

These things I learned from my husband's grandmother...

Run hot, sudsy water over any dirty dishes in the sink even if you can't get to them right now.

Start a load of laundry...the sound of a washing machine is soothing and implies something is being accomplished!

Simmer some vanilla and cinamon sticks in water on the stove...this also is soothing and helps them be patient for dinner!

This I learned on my own...

Give them time to "decompress". After a "Hi, Sweetie, how are you? And a quick kiss, I disappear and give him space." It takes about half an hour for my guy.

When we were newlyweds, he liked to spend this time plucking around with his guitar....I was so jealous, it was like another woman. Then when the babies started coming, I would usually greet him at the door by thrusting a crying baby into his arms and starting a flaming rant about how bad my life was. :flame:

Poor guy!

Best thing I do for him now is NEVER FORGET TO HAVE A DESSERT...which is hard, because I don't have much of a sweet tooth and I just don't think about it.

Pam<---just rambling:yeah:

[ddc101]

I like the baby at the door thing.That brought the scene before my eyes.I know how it must have been.......help.....lv sis.c

[Truthseeker]

Just do wahtever he says and you'll be alright. :banana:

[Abigail4476]

I try to have the kids occupied so they are not jumping all over daddy and have the house straightened and calm when he comes home he enjoys having down time where he doesn't do anything but sit down and relax for about 30 minutes or so. Then he is ready to enjoy us. I try to take all the pressure off him that I can any task that I can do without troubling him I do it.
I do the same...my husband needs quiet, wind-down time when he gets home. I make sure whatever rooms he comes into direct contact with when he gets home are neat, pleasant and smell good. I usually try to time my kids' naps (at least the youngest one) for about the time he gets home. About 45 minutes of peace and quiet and he joins me in the kitchen ready to talk about his day and play with the kids or help with dinner.

Having a small snack waiting in his office doesn't hurt anything.

[Abigail4476]

What if your husband is at home with you ALL the time. My job is to take care of my husband and at times things can get hairy. We have no kids :( so, it is just the two of us. There are times I don't feel like I can do anything right. He helps me with as much housework as possible, but that isn't much. He does cook though, which is a good thing because I can't. So, what are your suggestions for someone who is with her husband ALL the time????Get OUT of the house for at least an hour or so a day. Go for a walk. Go have coffee. Separate your chores a little more...if you're together all the time as it is, then try to schedule jobs that you do separately. I really have no idea. If my husband worked at home, we'd have to think of something, because we are both very difficult people. Maybe he could have a separate office or wing of the house to retreat to?

Personally, I don't like for my husband to help me with housework, unless I ask for it specifically, because I have certain ways of doing things.