For all us mothers

[lellingsworth]

God's Cake

Sometimes we wonder, "What did I do to deserve this", or "Why did God have to do this to me".

I'm sure at one time in our life we thought this.

Here is a wonderful explanation!

A daughter is telling her Mother how everything is going wrong, she's failing algebra, her boyfriend broke up with her and her best friend is moving away.

Meanwhile, her Mother is baking a cake and asks her daughter if she would like a snack, and the daughter says, "Absolutely Mom. I love your cake."

"Here, have some cooking oil," her Mother offers.
"Yuck" says her daughter.
“How about a couple raw eggs?"
"Gross, Mom!"
"Would you like some flour then? Or maybe baking soda?" "Mom, those are all yucky!"

To which the mother replies:

"Yes, all those things seem bad all by themselves.

But when they are put together in the right way, they make a wonderfully delicious cake!

God works the same way. Many times we wonder why He would let us go through such bad and difficult times.

But God knows that when He puts these things all in His order, they always work for good!

We just have to trust Him and, eventually, they will all make something wonderful!

[Christian Woman]

Thank you so much lellingsworth for those words. I really needed to hear them right at this moment!

God Bless
Sis. Michele

[lellingsworth]

You're welcome.

[Renee]

How does that apply just to mothers????

[Just Jesus]

The principle doesn't just apply to mothers, but the story was about a mother and daughter.

You certainly shoot from the hip.

[Renee]

Originally posted by Just Jesus
The principle doesn't just apply to mothers, but the story was about a mother and daughter.

You certainly shoot from the hip.


I most certainly do. Not being a mother is extremely difficult for me. So, when I read something like this, it hurts. Sorry. I agree about the principle of the story, that is why I asked. I don't mean to offend anyone, I just don't understand sometimes. :shrug:

[Apostolic Kitty]

Renee, I knew where you were coming from....

I know it's hard. I have a 12 year old, but I've been waiting to give my husband a child for 4 1/2 years. There have been times it has depressed both of us that we don't have a child together.

In due time we (you and me) will both have our babies. :)

[lellingsworth]

Renee:
That is very strange that you mention that on this board because I was thinking about you and that very subject this morning when I was getting ready for work. Maybe it's just not the right time. Who knows, huh? Well, look at it this way, at least when you borrow someone else's kids, you can give them back when they start making you bonkers. I was very blessed with my son. He has never been in trouble, got the Holy Ghost 1 year ago when he started church. He is almost 18. One is definitely enough though.

[Just Jesus]

I've been married and motherless for 7 years. There was a time when I couldn't even be friends with someone who was pregnant or had small children. I understand the hurt. But you have to move past the hurt or you will become bitter.

[ddc101]

Very good post sister.
Sister Renee I have noticed you are touchy about things said to those with children.Why is this sister? You can share here and not be judged.We are all in different stages of life experiences but are all headed the same way....heaven.I did not have a child with Brother Cooper until we were married for two years and then we only have two together and they are seven years apart.I don't know why the Lord chose this big gap but it works okay for us.I would have loved a bunch of children because I grew up alone.I am the youngest of five but my mom had me in her forties so I was a late in life child.But as I am older I have come to realize that the Lord gave me to them for the saving of their souls and to take care of them in their old age.My mom died saved and my dad is on his way though eighty three.I consider it my blessing in life.I will pray for you.Children do not give you worth.Jesus counts you as worth as you are.I have several friends in the ministry that do not have children.Some of the callings would be hard on children.I have a very close friend who did not have children until they came back from Korea and the mission field.Now she has the most children in her church.It was Gods time and not hers.God bless you sister.lv sis.c

[Renee]

I totally understand that God is in control of all things. I know that His timing is the best for us. It still makes it VERY hard to see threads like this that seem to be just for mothers. It is nothing against Sis. Lellingsworth, who created this thread, it is just frustrating. I almost didn't even come in here when I read the title. I figured, "Well, that doesn't apply to me."

There was a time when I couldn't even be friends with someone who was pregnant or had small children.

I feel that way sometimes. There was a woman I know who recently had a baby. She used to be my best friend, but things happened between us long ago. When I heard about her baby and saw the pictures of him, I was sort of bitter about it (according to my husband). I thought maybe it was because of what had happened in the past with her, but I realized that it wasn't that at all. I was bitter or whatever about her being able to have a baby. I just don't know...

Like I said in the beginning, I realize that God's timing is perfect. I guess I just have a problem being happy for other people that are able to have children.

Well, look at it this way, at least when you borrow someone else's kids, you can give them back when they start making you bonkers.

I have no problem with older kids, I am a Sunday School teacher. It is just hard for me to hold babies. Saturday we had a picnic and there was someone there with a baby. Everyone else was holding her and playing with her, I couldn't even go around her. I just don't understand why this is happening. It isn't that I am oversensitive or anything... :shrug:

[jwharvell]

I don't come to the ladies area much but, I felt I needed to post something here. It has alot to do with this I think. When me and Renee first got married the church we were going to held a Revival with a minister who claimed to work in the gifts of prophecy. We were introduced to him on the first night as "the newly weds". It just so happens that same night he prophecied to Renee she would have children within a year. We later heard him preach agian just a short time later he called Renee out and prophecied that almost exact same thing. Both times she got her hopes up. When time went by and nothing came of it she was truely upset. I have to wonder about men who prophecy over people by what they learn about them before services because we weren't the only ones he did this too.

I think this disappointment still lingers some for my wife. To have a man claim that God says your going to have children within a time span and it not happen can hurt anyone. It's also can be a hard thing to get over when it happened right after we were maried and not long before I started having major health problems. If some of the men going around claiming to "prophecy" over people when the only word they are getting is from the gossip before church knew what they were doing I think they just might rethink their ministries.

[ddc101]

Sometimes Bro.Harvell things that are prophesied can really hurt.People are still people and can miss it.I remember when Brother and I first got married we were having a hard time adjusting like any married couple does.Especially because I was twenty six and he was twenty eight almost twenty nine.But we were stuggling with issues.A preacher came for revival to the church we attended.He called me out and said....Mam....everyone has marriage problems once in a while.Talk to me along with your pastor after church.Well we were married only a few months and were ministers in the church.There was alot of jealousy over our relationship with the pastor with several of the church members.Since we were with him and his wife alot.Especially myself because I was like a daughter to them.So the gossip hounds got on it real quick.The pastor even told me that I needed to sit down from the platform playing my guitar until I could get my marriage in order.And that was just from hearing the evanglist.It hurt me real bad and the gossip hounds were filled with joy over my situation.Things returned to normal after too long and the preacher who prophecied backslid from the ministry.He did not have wisdom in using the gifts.Now today we pastor and mort of those same saints are not serving the Lord. Only time will tell.lv sis.c

[lellingsworth]

That's why our pastor doesn't promote ANYONE getting up there and doing that. He refuses to do it as well. All I can say is that God knew your plates were going to be full and maybe too hard to take care of a little one. Really, with my son almost ready to leave home, I really have learned, it's all about enjoying my spouse. Renee, I will keep your thoughts in mind because I don't even know you but you are as cute as a bug and I love you.

[Renee]

Thanks so much for your kind words. I hope I didn't offend anyone when I first posted on this thread. I will now leave you to your thread that seemed to get hijacked. :) God bless.

[Just Jesus]

I know one thing that has helped me being motherless is owning pets. I know animals are not the same thing as a human baby, however, it gives me a chance to nuture and mother. My dog thinks it's human. I also spend alot of time doing free babysitting. I enjoy the time with the kids and they like me. Makes me feel good.

[Deonna]

Free babysitting??? I'll look you up sometime :D

[Renee]

I have a dog. I love him to death, but he drives me insane sometimes. I guess kids would do that too...at least I can leave Harley at home. LOL It doesn't really fill the void, but it does help some.

[Christian Woman]

Renee
God sees and knows the desires of your heart. Have patience and let God have His perfect work in your life.

I'll be praying for you. :)

God Bless

[Renee]

Thank you. I am trying my very best to trust Him. I know in my head that His timing is perfect, I just can't seem to convince my heart. :shrug:

[Apostolic Kitty]

Originally posted by Renee
Like I said in the beginning, I realize that God's timing is perfect. I guess I just have a problem being happy for other people that are able to have children.

I've felt that way before. It's not an easy thing to "get over" as some might put it. Personally, I find it insensitive when someone's heart is broken over something and another tells them "get over it and move on". :(

Hubby and I have both had times of getting depressed -- and even fighting -- over not having had a child together yet. It's been a while, though. I think we've both pretty much come to terms with it, though the yearning is still there.

Hold onto this "delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart".

[Apostolic Kitty]

You know....my best friend, who has longed for children her entire life, just found out she was pregnant about a month ago...and she just turned 33.... I don't think I've ever heard her sound happier than the day she called me to tell me I was going to be a "na-nan".

[Renee]

Thank you for completely understanding, Apostlic Kitty. You seem to be the only one that hasn't told me to "get over it". Thanks for the support.

[ddc101]

Originally posted by Renee
Thank you for completely understanding, Apostlic Kitty. You seem to be the only one that hasn't told me to "get over it". Thanks for the support.

Sister I am going to say this in as nice a way as I can.None of the sisters here told you to get over it.They just love and want to help you.Sometimes the words are hard to find but I get pm's from these ladies all the time.They are really great and many have been through great firey trials that would have staggered me.Give everyone a break.I for one would love to see you have all of your hearts desires fullfilled in Jesus.lv sis.c

[Renee]

I NEVER said that the women here said that. You misunderstood me. THE END!!!!!

[ddc101]

Okay Sister Renee but you did not make that very clear.lv sis.c