Father and Son activities

[BrotherBallard]

I would like to know what some of you Fathers do with your sons, or vice versa, Sons if you are older, what did you do or what do you do with your dads?
My son, who is 10, and I went out and purchased 2 mountain bikes last year, in which we both enjoy riding together. This year we purchased a tent, so we may try to combine both mountain biking, camping and fishing.
I'm just curious what others do, I'l looking for other activites to do with my son. I'm wanting to bond with my son and instill in him virtues and values that can only be taught on a one on one basis. I only have a very few short years until he is an adult and I want to spend as much quality time with him as possible.

In His Name!!!

[seguidordejesus]

Bro. Ballard, I´m glad you´re interested in your son now. When I was around his age, my parents divorced, and we moved 8 hrs away. Thankfully, I had a Godly uncle who took on my dad´s role as much as he could and was able to mentor me and do some of those things that you want to do with your son. Your son may not appreciate it sometimes, but don´t give up, he´ll miss it more if you don´t make the effort.

[Former PK]

Bro. Ballard,

Bravo!!!

I would vote for anything the kid wants to do. There is no such thing as "Qualitity Time vs Quanitity Time" It is all about Quanitity. I seriously suspect that as your boy grows up the activities will change.

This is a subject that I would not discuss without anominity. But to ALL FATHERS and ESPECIALLY PASTOR/FATHERS. YOUR FAMILY IS FIRST.....

Many times it seemed that it was easier to get money from my father than time. Any dead beat saint, with a mickey mouse problem could get a half-hour. I couldn't

[jwharvell]

Bro Ballard

I remember most when I was young when my Dad would take me fishing. I remember the Lake nearest to our home we would go set for hours and never catch a thing which never really bothered me because I was just having fun tossing the bait off the hook seeing how far I could cast. My Dad knew though sometimes I was disappointed though that we always came back with no fish so I remember about 2 times a year he would take me to a private pond that was stocked with fish and we would catch fish allday. I didn't know till later he had to pay almost 2 bucks a pound for those fish and we never had much money growing up that still means alot to me to this day. It also provided us with time to talk about anything especialy at the lake where we never caught any fish. :) I remember oneday we were there and a scuba diver came up out of the water. That caused us to talk for days.

God Bless
Jw

[jwharvell]

P.S. When I call home sometimes he ask me when i am coming back to Alabama cause he wants to go fishing. You know wha I do to. :)

[Former PK]

P.S. When I call home sometimes he ask me when i am coming back to Alabama cause he wants to go fishing. You know wha I do to. :)

Go!

There will come a day when you want to and can't.

[Truthseeker]

I would like to know what some of you Fathers do with your sons, or vice versa, Sons if you are older, what did you do or what do you do with your dads?
My son, who is 10, and I went out and purchased 2 mountain bikes last year, in which we both enjoy riding together. This year we purchased a tent, so we may try to combine both mountain biking, camping and fishing.
I'm just curious what others do, I'l looking for other activites to do with my son. I'm wanting to bond with my son and instill in him virtues and values that can only be taught on a one on one basis. I only have a very few short years until he is an adult and I want to spend as much quality time with him as possible.

In His Name!!!

I think it's not just outings that matter but the day to day stuff. Some things I do:

I'm the one that wakes him and takes him to school.
I'm the one who runs his bath water.
I'm the one who lays down with him everynite on his bed.


Activites are important as well. I'd would ask him what he likes and go from there.

My son loves going to the YMCA when I play b-ball.

We go fishing.

One thing I want to start doing is making and launching rockets. that can be a blast. You spend time together making them at home then go to a field and launch em.

[jwharvell]

Go!

There will come a day when you want to and can't.

Trust me I would love to now but I can't!!!

[Former PK]

Trust me I would love to now but I can't!!!

I hear what you are saying, but I lost my Dad 19 years ago. It is easier to see that I should have been more willing to drop things and rearrange my priorities.

Nothing today would be more important, if I could spend some time with him.

So, I'm sure you have your reasons, I'm just not sure I would put any weight in them.

I've got to get off this thread I'm getting too emotional.

[John Atkinson]

Here is a father-daughter activity that would work just fine as a father-son one.

Model Rockets!

You build them together then you fly them together! The best place to do that is at a club launch. In your area BroBallard is one of the most active clubs, the Dallas Area Rocket Society http://www.dars.org/

Alia with a small rocket, and our fleet of small rockets (can't find any pics of the ones over 6' tall)

[florahall]

God knows how many millions on children being a victim of divorce and end up of staying with the father or the mother only or staying with a step mother or father. It is not our children fault, but is is the parents. It our children who suffer being away from other parent. But if it will happen, make use the precious time that you have with your child. Our children grow faster and we won't even know and realize that they are already grown up for we are all busy in our work. We neglect our children needs and the time that they want to be with us to enjoy their childhood. A lot of children suffer and the only way they can do is to cry and to adopt what ever invironment that they have . they have no choice specially when they are little. They are like a bouncing ball.
There are so many activities that the father and son can do or a mother and daughter or son can do. It is not just outdoor or playtime, but build up a good and godly relationship with your child. show them your love and care. Listen to them spend time with them, work with them as a team and most of all bring them to church.
I have three boys of my own, I use to have 4 one step son and we use to have a wonderful time together, untill Judas come to our life. With out the help of my husband, I did my duty as a father and a mother to the children. I love my children that i will do everything for them. I give up my life for my children and work so hard to provide them with a decent life. It is not only activities that will make you a good father or mother, it is your good relationship to them. Your love and your care is the most important and your respect to them. Giving them a hug and talking to them and doing something together is something that our children want to treasure. It will be in their heart and mind when they grow up.Be a good example to them , talk to them, play with them, as they are growing past.
I have a 5 years old that is only with me for 24 hours twice a month. When he is with me I cannot catch up of his demand as he miss me so much and he want everything from me. He want to be on my side all the time and want to do something together with me. He want to go everywhere and as soon as he is with me, he will tell me what to do and where to go. He has all the plan that he want to do. I want to give it all to him but becasue of the limited time , he cry and disapointed that we cannot do it together. It hurt me and him, for we both feel that we are like a thief that we have to watch our time and we need to be in a hurry all the time to catch up of what we want to do. It is hard when a child is in this kind of situation. But I try my best to make my son happy for the short period of time that we are together. I pray for my son and read him a bible story and other books that he want to read before he goes to sleep and of course the good night kiss from him.. In the morning, the first thing he will do is to say good morning and a kiss followed with a morning prayer, then he will remind me of what is our schedule for that day. My older boys is a big help for me in my household. We work together as a team, in the yard, in the house, in the church and we go out for fun together as a family. My boys are my friends, and we love and respect to each other.My boys are active in the church, and I am withg them on their activities. We do it together, except for the sports that my eldest son have, I dont want to see him hit. He is in the wristling team in school and as a mother I cannot watch him hit by anybody. so I dont go on this activities.

Prasie the lord to the parents that love their children and do their responsibility to to them.

Sister Flora Hall.

[Apostolic Kitty]

Here is a father-daughter activity that would work just fine as a father-son one.

Model Rockets!

You build them together then you fly them together! The best place to do that is at a club launch. In your area BroBallard is one of the most active clubs, the Dallas Area Rocket Society http://www.dars.org/

Alia with a small rocket, and our fleet of small rockets (can't find any pics of the ones over 6' tall)
NERD!

















I think it's cool. I must be a NERD, too....

[jwharvell]

I know this sounds weird but take them camping and start a fire. Me and my brother had the best times playing with my dad around fires he would throw stuff like firecrackers in the fire and we loved it. Then we would cook Hot Dogs on the old metal cloth's hangers and roast mushmellows. It was a ball!!!

[FedwaySHE]

cool bro jw! I know i'm a female posting in the men's section, but i just had to give my :tup: 's.... back before I had my son, my husband and I used to pop firecrackers in the campfire anyway lol.... right now though, he (our son) is getting over fear of really LOUD noises (i.e. fireworks of any sort)

Something my husband likes to do with him is to take him to visit local museums around town, not the kind with paintings yet, but we live near 2 military bases and they house a plethura of memorobilia.... airplanes, tanks, choppers... its a whole other story when they visit during training hours though:huh:

[ReneeP]

We ladies are always into something arent we ? :icon_laug
Well, the men have posted enough in the ladies section, so whats good for the goose is good for the gander..;)

Anyway....I LOVE watching my son(12 yrs old) and husband do things together!!!
They go bike riding together
Thursday Nights is *their* night...they usually go to Subway and get 2 footlong sandwiches and do thier thing! NO MOMS ALLOWED! And I am PERFECTLY ok with that!!!
When we are in the car..they play *cops* My husband is the chief and my son is his partner and they will act like they are chasing robbers or *bad* guys DRIVES ME CRAZY but its funny to watch them
You see, it doesnt have to "cost" you anything in money to build memories! HOw will your children remember their childhood?
ANd if I may add right here....its not only about father and son.....Dad...if you have a daughter..remember its just important to have a date night with her!!! I do not have any daughters BUT the days my husband cannot be here with our son...Im making my own personal memories with him

[Apostolic Kitty]

As you can see, I'm fully female, but my dad and I used to do "boy" things together, too.

Beside rubber bands, we would shoot those guns that had the little yellow rubber beebees in them at each other...in the house. My poor mom would have to clean up after us kids. LOL

We would also play football (tackle only, tyvm, since any other kind -- flag/touch -- is for wimps).

During the summer we'd get in our pool and do all kinds of things together. I'd ride on his back (usually standing) as he swam across the pool, he'd play tugboat with me (him the tugboat, me in my blow up boat), and, of course, water football.

Dad used to wrestle and box with me a lot, too. I believe that was his way of teaching me to protect myself.

I also have at least one photo of him playing with my McDonalds playset with me (restaurant with little cars to go through the drive-thru), too.

[Chosen1]

There is an awesome saying that goes like this " The way a child spells love is T- I - M - E ! "


I do all kinds of things with our 4 boys , they play 2 sports a year of their choice and we attend every game . We shoot BB guns ( bigger ones when they get bigger ) . They just want your time and attention and sometimes I will just grab them and pen them in on the couch and they can't get away , they say " Let me go !!! " but don't struggle veru hard to get away , if you know what I mean ? We also go swimming together , fishing when I can stand it ( I hate to fish unless I am catching a bunch ) . I think one of the greatest things we can do as a Dad is always remember what it was like to be a kid and that way the next time they want you to play " Hotwheels " or video games you can play with them and forget you're a grown up for a little while !!
They love it !!!!!! :tup:

[ReneeP]

There is an awesome saying that goes like this " The way a child spells love is T- I - M - E ! "
. I think one of the greatest things we can do as a Dad is always remember what it was like to be a kid and that way the next time they want you to play " Hotwheels " or video games you can play with them and forget you're a grown up for a little while !!
They love it !!!!!! :tup:

Oh when I read that it reminded me of a time....
It was Friday night and I had went on to bed and the "BOYS" (father and son) decided they were going to see who could stay up the longest lol
Well...morning comes....husband had not been to bed so I thought well he is either in my son's bed or they both fell asleep on the couch.
When I walked into the living room :eek: I thought I was going to fall over!!!!!
There were HUNDREDS of hotwheel cars EVERYWHERE!!! Along with a wooden train set! They had turned my living room into a complete city!!!!
There were car sale lots, a train wreck (lol) carboard boxes that represented factories,stores..etc OH MY!!! But they had a blast!!! Dont think the picking up was as adventurous as setting up LOL


God bless,
Renee

[Apostolic Kitty]

I think one of the greatest things we can do as a Dad is always remember what it was like to be a kid and that way the next time they want you to play " Hotwheels " or video games you can play with them and forget you're a grown up for a little while !!
They love it !!!!!! :tup:
LOL

This Mom LOVES Hot Wheels! We have a whole highway system of Hot Wheels, but no longer have the room to set it up. :( There have been times when hubby, me and son have all played with it.

[Apostolic Kitty]

When I walked into the living room :eek: I thought I was going to fall over!!!!! There were HUNDREDS of hotwheel cars EVERYWHERE!!! Along with a wooden train set! They had turned my living room into a complete city!!!!
There were car sale lots, a train wreck (lol) carboard boxes that represented factories,stores..etc OH MY!!! But they had a blast!!! Dont think the picking up was as adventurous as setting up LOL
Did you join in on the fun?

Another thing my boys love to do is play the race car video games. Okay....I do, too... :)

[Landmark Laf]

Speaking from the son's point of view...

The things that made the biggest difference in my life, were the smallest and easiest things. Throwing the ball with my dad everyday until his elbow hurt. Playing a best of 25 ping pong tournament or playing pool. Playing shortstop on the church softball team with my dad at third base.

Other things that made a huge difference: Driving me to wherever the youth were hanging out; staying in our trailor at LA youth camps....Even when I turned older (17,18,19) he would get me a hotel room when I would go to a far away youth rally. Pay my way to youth congress. Take me when he went to preach at conferences in El Salvador.... Little things make the biggest differences. I wouldn't be who I am today without him...

[Apostolic Kitty]

Speaking from the son's point of view...

The things that made the biggest difference in my life, were the smallest and easiest things. Throwing the ball with my dad everyday until his elbow hurt. Playing a best of 25 ping pong tournament or playing pool. Playing shortstop on the church softball team with my dad at third base.

Other things that made a huge difference: Driving me to wherever the youth were hanging out; staying in our trailor at LA youth camps....Even when I turned older (17,18,19) he would get me a hotel room when I would go to a far away youth rally. Pay my way to youth congress. Take me when he went to preach at conferences in El Salvador.... Little things make the biggest differences. I wouldn't be who I am today without him...
I hope you have relayed that to him. ;)

[Landmark Laf]

I hope you have relayed that to him. ;)
Absolutely...

[Truthseeker]

me and my son have done alot fishing this summer. It's clean and fun and I love bass fishing!

I plan on taking him camping at one of our fishing spots.

I know we must tecah them, but it's relationships that instill it in them!

[Ace]

I have three boys 7, 5, 2. YAHOO!
I am basically pioneering with this though because I never had a dad growing up but I did have a Grandpa that showed me a real love for creation.
The thing I am learning is that I can't be afraid to learn and explore along with them. The rocket or model airplane thing looks like fun, even though I really don't know any thing about it. I have to be willing to explore these things with the same varosity as my boys are. And not worry about having to know everything first.
Isn't GOD cool!!!!

[Anvilfire]

I've been blessed with two boys and a girl .My sons ages 12 and 7 are both different from me. I try to find things in common with them to have fun as in sports video games ,fishing and such .I am a bladesmith and sometime they will help me around the anvil.It is important that we spend time with our children to teach and guide them also to let them know we are a freind .Sometimes we just need to listen to them tell us about their ideals as my 7 year old does.My dad left when I was eight and have never seen him since so I made it a point to spend time with my children to raise them in a godly home but to let them be themselves also.

[jpires]

I take my son fishing around the corner from me at the river. We ride our bikes together. I'm hoping to make him into a better person than myself, but don't we all wish the best for our children? I also take my children to church. Myself I'm an converted catholic. So the best I can do is show them the path to GOD and they can choose there own transportation to him(GOD).

[Pastor Stevens]

I have three boys and we go golfing (surprise right?). It's not real golf but there is a par three course near us that has a miniture golf section. My boys (7,9,11) love telling people that they go "golfing with Dad". We keep score cards and really eyeball the greens and then high 5 each other for birdies and hole in ones. It's a blast.

[Apostolic Kitty]

Minature golf is fun. :)

[tjboy]

Found this site toooooooooooooooooo late....... Saints (men and WOman) please pray for my house hold.. i have 2 step daughters and the oldest one called dyfes because after we told them to clean the room they flipped out big fight ..... well you can fill in the rest.

[ShiningEpistle]

my dad took me fishing sometimes. he'd also play basketball with me outside or something like that. wish we did more of that stuff when I was younger but I won't complain. I plan on doing more stuff with the time I've got left.

[richardmasoner]

I spend plenty of non-organized time with my two children, but less sponstaneous "planned" things include:

snow skiing
bicycling -- around town and in the mountains
paintball
"plinking" in the woods (shooting stuff with a gun)
bed time stories
fishing (occasionally -- kids love it, I hate it)
RFM