Date Night

[ddc101]

We go out every week at least once together and also plan weekends alone.
Does anyone else do this?

[tufluv]

Oh yes! We do make time to enjoy each other, go out, at least once a week, or more, depending on both our schedules, we go shopping together, (favorite store-HomeDepot!), running errands, go to brunch, dinner, whatever, sometimes to a movie IF and only IF we can find something clean, usually something in the nature of a animated movie, we've been tryin to go see "JONAH' starring the Veggie Tales., its probably out on video by now.
Sometimes we just watch t.v., we watch either Animal Planet, or our real favorite, the HomeRepairs shows!!We'll order in some take out food. We also like to watch the Discovery, History Channels, even the weather channel.

AS for kids, they're mine, none with him, I tell everyone, he's "child" enough for me! He's been their stepdad for 10 yrs now, they've learned to put up with him, since I do. They're older now, and are gone out a lot., we're often home alone together!
I know we'll always find ways to have fun together., date night or not.
THIS IS PROBABLY, a stretch for this topic, but submitted in LOVE, for JESUS, and my busy bee sisters.

[ddc101]

I like that you mentioned Home Depot or Home Repair things.I have heard that when people are having marital problems one of the things they are told to do is find a hobby they can do together like woodwork or furniture restoration or something they can go to craft shows and hobby stores and shop for together.Does anyone else do anything like this?

[tufluv]

Its me again, just wanted to clarify something, I know Sis Cooper, probably did not mean to imply marital problems within MY marriage, but JUST in case (and since noone else is posting on this so far):

It may be suggested by marriage counselors for couples to do this, great idea, but we've never had to be advised to do these things, we just gradually over time realized we shared the love of these interests, as time presented the opportunities and NEED to be self-employed using our combined skills. I'm very inquisitive, ask questions, and learn from him. We started out as friends long before we became more than that, so it's been a natural outflow.

It surely IS a good idea to have something in common with a life partner, besides kids, household problems, etc., although I suspect that for those already having problems for some time, this may not even be possible due to the degree of animosity within some marriages.
Maybe this has helped keep us together against all odds. I LOVE projects!

[NanaRenan]

It may be suggested by marriage counselors for couples to do this, great idea, but we've never had to be advised to do these things, we just gradually over time realized we shared the love of these interests, as time presented the opportunities and NEED to be self-employed using our combined skills. I'm very inquisitive, ask questions, and learn from him. We started out as friends long before we became more than that, so it's been a natural outflow.

It surely IS a good idea to have something in common with a life partner, besides kids, household problems, etc., although I suspect that for those already having problems for some time, this may not even be possible due to the degree of animosity within some marriages.
Maybe this has helped keep us together against all odds. I LOVE projects!
For years -- as a young wife -- I believed that we HAD TO have a common hobby. Everything I suggested was shot down!!

Two things happened -- about the same time -- to change my mind.

#1) While out shopping, he wanted to stop in a sporting good store to look at a particular putter. While wandering around, I encountered this sweet little old lady who immediately offered to take me under her wing and teach me everything she knew about golf. Assuring me that she didn't take it up until she was 60 and fell so in love with it that they'd sold their home and bought one on the golf course.

Now, frankly, I'd always thought golf was about as much fun as watching paint dry, but figured I'd give it a try if it improved my marriage. (Not that it was in trouble, but you know some people, looking to improve!)

As we were climbing back into the pick up I decided to spring this idea on my hubby. He leveled such a gaze at me!! Oy! And said, "The day you set foot on a golf course is the day I sell my clubs."

Ouch! :realmad:

Okay -- scratch that. I'll just have to find something "I" like and talk him into it.

#2) Now during the time I was out of church, I'd always wanted to learn to dance. (I've been told I "shout" rather gracefully, but I have no rhythm or coordination if I'm not worshipping the Lord....I can't even keep up with a workout video!!) But I always tho't it looked SO romantic.

I'd bring it up and hubby would scoff or flat out refuse. The very last time I ever mentioned it, we had walked into the grand ballroom where his company was holding their annual Christmas party. The band was playing and the tuxedoed gentlemen were twirling the begowned ladies....I sighed at how lovely it all seemed. I leaned over and prodded him with, "My NEXT husband's gonna know how to dance."

He immediately came back with, "Yeah? Well, my NEXT wife's not gonna want to!"

:huh: Well shut my mouth RIGHT up!!! LOL

From that moment on, I realized, we don't HAVE to have a joint hobby. He has his golf and I have my scrapbooking and each respects the other's time and space to commit to that.

But we do have many, many common interests.....Living for God! Our children and the GrandDoll...gardening, home repair, travel, history, etc. Sure am glad I gave up trying to FIX something that wasn't broken! ;)

btw---I'm avoiding working today, can ya'll tell??

[ddc101]

Sister Nana,
You can always do what my mom in law does.They go two way radios that fit in your purse to go shopping together.He goes one way she goes the other and when they are done they call each other.This works real good at the mall too.lv sis.c

[tufluv]

This thread has been resurrected! :banana:

I sometimes hear women talk about wanting to get away from their husbands, etc. I can't imagine being without mine. I have no desire to get away from him, he is the same towards me - really!
Except of course, when he occasionally goes fishing with his dad, or a friend, which is rarely any more. He so loves fishing, I like it too, but I don't love it.
Believe it or not, I even feel sorry for the fish!! :D

Now sometimes I say I need to get away, (and only when its doing 'sister' stuff like campmeetings, conferences, etc., when it may entail at least one night away) - but when I do, after a short while..I get anxious 'cause we're so far apart. Our cell phones have to suffice. HE says the same, and we've decided I am not going anywhere anymore, without him.

We are together 24/7!! And we don't tire of it. WE complement each other. Sure we have some 'spats' or differences of opinion, probably more some days than others - but all in all, its good to be friends with a husband. He is almost always in a good or happy mood-so quick to forgive and forget - wish I was more like him. :D

NanaRenan: Sorry you didn't get far in the 'mutual hobby' department, but don't give up. Something will eventually 'click' but it seems your'e doing okay anyway! :tup:

[Abigail4476]

Sister Nana,
You can always do what my mom in law does.They go two way radios that fit in your purse to go shopping together.He goes one way she goes the other and when they are done they call each other.This works real good at the mall too.lv sis.c
Oh YES...my husband can't RESIST playing with walkie-talkies...no matter WHERE we are!!!! LOL

[Abigail4476]

This thread has been resurrected! :banana:

I sometimes hear women talk about wanting to get away from their husbands, etc. I can't imagine being without mine. I have no desire to get away from him, he is the same towards me - really!
Except of course, when he occasionally goes fishing with his dad, or a friend, which is rarely any more. He so loves fishing, I like it too, but I don't love it.
Believe it or not, I even feel sorry for the fish!! :D

Now sometimes I say I need to get away, (and only when its doing 'sister' stuff like campmeetings, conferences, etc., when it may entail at least one night away) - but when I do, after a short while..I get anxious 'cause we're so far apart. Our cell phones have to suffice. HE says the same, and we've decided I am not going anywhere anymore, without him.

We are together 24/7!! And we don't tire of it. WE complement each other. Sure we have some 'spats' or differences of opinion, probably more some days than others - but all in all, its good to be friends with a husband. He is almost always in a good or happy mood-so quick to forgive and forget - wish I was more like him. :D

NanaRenan: Sorry you didn't get far in the 'mutual hobby' department, but don't give up. Something will eventually 'click' but it seems your'e doing okay anyway! :tup:
My husband and I are both musicians/singers/songwriters, so you would think we would be compatible in this area...alas, our styles and tastes are so vastly different that we can't even get through a music practice without sending each other looks that kill...so we avoid that unless absolutely necessary...

We do enjoy cooking together...however, I just throw in what "looks" right which irritates my husband to no end, and he measures everything slowly and meticulously which irritates ME to no end...lol...but we enjoy the end result and we both LOVE to entertain company and feed them good food.

[NanaRenan]

We do enjoy cooking together...however, I just throw in what "looks" right which irritates my husband to no end, and he measures everything slowly and meticulously which irritates ME to no end...lol...but we enjoy the end result and we both LOVE to entertain company and feed them good food.
Ah -- I do have a solution for that. You cook the things were precision is not an issue....soups, stews, casseroles, marinades, etc. My favorite kind of cooking -- just open up the cabinet and toss in a little of whatever looks good.

Let him do the baking -- that usually requires you to be exact and diligent. Me, if the recipe has YEAST in the ingredient list I flip the page!

Pam<----no patience for kneading and rising

[Truthseeker]

here's something we did one time. We fasted from food every weekend and from each other for a WHOOOOOLLLEEEE month ;) We picked a day grandma could watch the kids. My wife went ahead to grandmas the nite before. She bought a new outfit and so did I. When I got off work I drove to her moms house about a hour away with my new threads like I was taking her out for the first time or something, had the flower thing for her and a flower plant for mom. Rang the door bell and picked up my date. Man, she looked out of this world. We smiled and giggled on the way to the restraunt, it was so much fun. We had a great dinner and then .................................................. .............. :tup:

[ddc101]

Wow Brother Rob you are romantic.Great job! lv sis.c :spin:

[Just wondering]

Read this and thought it sounded interesting so I decided to bump it.

My husband works away from home. He is gone 7 days and then is home 7 days. We talk on the phone before he goes to work and when he gets off.

Our children are grown and it seemed like when he came in they all came over so we had no time to just enjoy each other's company. So we came up with the idea we would sneak away the day he come in. It worked really well. Think we will do it again.

[tufluv]

Date nights should be DATE4Eternity, in JESUSname., after all HE
instituted marriage btwn male/female to illustrate HE being groom,
we the BRIDE, and 4Ever do we NEVER part., amen!
It is a shame how some people change from lovey dovey to ..
divorce., so much for "till death do us part" under GOD.,
and satan wins yet another round. :grumble:
THIS should not happen for the saints, no matter what.,
as the pastor that married us said "no refunds,[I]no excuses".
and so it will be. :D


*just a-passin thru once again*

[tealbee99]

Big fan of date night, although we go through cycles. We'll do really good for a while and then there's a big lapse. We finally went away for the night last fall. The kids are more than old enough to take care of themselves - my son is 20 and the girls are 11, so that really does help. My husband and I have the secret to success when it comes to marriage and kids...."It's us against them!" I heard someone teach that we have it all backwards, we want to love our kids, and train our husbands, and then wonder why it doesn't work. Great wisdom...but I still wish I could train my husband...hmmm....

[Just wondering]

It is so easy to get caught up in everyday life that we have no time for each other. It is a tool of the devil. I read on a sign in front of a church that if the devil can't make you bad he will just make you busy. That is so true.

[ddc101]

You know it is sad that people go from lovey dovey to divorced. I should know it happened to me. I did everything I possibly could but it was never enough.
I am glad though that Jesus saw all my hard efforts and rewarded me with a faithful
husband who comes home to me alone. He takes me out on dates and even plans them.

Jesus always has plan B if plan A did not work out. It would be nice if life were always
perfect and people did not fail you but they sometimes do.

I have to say this though that for all the days I cried now I rejoice twice as much.

Thank you Jesus for being faithful to me.

[MawMaw]

Me and my honey go on dates regularly! :heart:

[Just wondering]

Big fan of date night, although we go through cycles. We'll do really good for a while and then there's a big lapse. We finally went away for the night last fall. The kids are more than old enough to take care of themselves - my son is 20 and the girls are 11, so that really does help. My husband and I have the secret to success when it comes to marriage and kids...."It's us against them!" I heard someone teach that we have it all backwards, we want to love our kids, and train our husbands, and then wonder why it doesn't work. Great wisdom...but I still wish I could train my husband...hmmm....


If you figure this out please let me know the secret. :)

[UPCLady]

We will be celebrating our 36th wedding anniversary on May 31, 2010 & every friday night is date night for us. We go out to eat & then to walmart or anywhere else he wants to go. I thank God for my wonderful husband!

[Just wondering]

Well, I am a little ahead of you. My husband and I will be celebrating our 36th on February 22.

[lellingsworth]

This thread has been resurrected! :banana:

I sometimes hear women talk about wanting to get away from their husbands, etc. I can't imagine being without mine. I have no desire to get away from him, he is the same towards me - really!
Except of course, when he occasionally goes fishing with his dad, or a friend, which is rarely any more. He so loves fishing, I like it too, but I don't love it.
Believe it or not, I even feel sorry for the fish!! :D

Now sometimes I say I need to get away, (and only when its doing 'sister' stuff like campmeetings, conferences, etc., when it may entail at least one night away) - but when I do, after a short while..I get anxious 'cause we're so far apart. Our cell phones have to suffice. HE says the same, and we've decided I am not going anywhere anymore, without him.

We are together 24/7!! And we don't tire of it. WE complement each other. Sure we have some 'spats' or differences of opinion, probably more some days than others - but all in all, its good to be friends with a husband. He is almost always in a good or happy mood-so quick to forgive and forget - wish I was more like him. :D

NanaRenan: Sorry you didn't get far in the 'mutual hobby' department, but don't give up. Something will eventually 'click' but it seems your'e doing okay anyway! :tup:

When I was married, we didn't want to be away from eachother either. I hated racing, but I loved him enough to love it too. But also, there were times when I purposely made him go by himself. Sometimes a man needs time to be alone.