Menopause

[witness4jesus]

You know, the hard part for me was that I started
serving God right about the time this began for me.
My emotions were all over the place, and that led
to a depression that it took Jesus to bring me out
of.

While I believe that Jesus cured of me of that
deep depression I used to struggle with before,
it is still difficult for me sometimes to maintain
an even keel.

There will be days when I am really just praising
God and full of joy, and then along comes the
time when I want to weep at everything. And it
takes extra effort to keep spiritually balanced.

I have been seeking natural sources of estrogen,
as I do not go to doctors. This helps some, when
I can get myself in the routine of taking it.

For me, the best ways I deal with it are prayer,
the word, music [highly therapeutic], and talking
to other ladies.

I know there are others out there who struggle
with this. This is one good reason for having a
ladies only discussion, Third. Sensitive areas. :o

sis pam

[ddc101]

Funny you should mention it sister Pam but I thought of this today.How good it would be to start a thread on it.You are right on time.
I have helped several friends go through this.It has not hit me as of yet.I am only 42 but I am sure when it does..I'll go nuts like everyone else.
I understand there is a creme you can buy at the health food store that helps ease your hot flashes.
Also if you do enough soy products it helps.But do not overdue as it really will make you miserable.
For those of you who are trying primrose oil capsules.At first they make you feel almost sedated.After a while you get used to it.What is does is help balance you out.It is important to make sure you are getting enough B vits.These are easily depleted and you need them daily.
Some women tell me they feel like they are backslid during this trial.But I say "God made us this way and he knows whats best.
So don't tamper with it too much."
sis.c

[witness4jesus]

Thank you, Sis Cooper. I appreciate your suggestions.

I began to go through it at 39, which was later than my mother, but still early. I had a tubal ligation when my younger son was born 25 years ago, and nothing was the same after that. It threw everything off, and my husband literally thought I was going through menopause at that time. But no, it was just intense PMS.

At 39, I did not begin to have any disruption of things, but my hormones became intensely off kilter, and I would have severe mood swings, crying incidents. Thankfully, I received the Holy Ghost about that time, which if not for the Holy Ghost, I would not be here today.

As for hot flashes, they are not at all like I thought they would be. But those dont really bother me too badly.

Mostly, the thing I battle with the most is my emotions. And that is where the support of other women goes a long way. Particularly when facing some of the things I face. I do realize that my emotions are also what gives me such a highly creative nature, but there have been times I wished that I didnt feel anything.

I appreciate how God made me, and I realize that this is part of the normal course of life, so it doesnt disturb me too greatly.

The other thing too is, dealing with change. The last 2 years for me has been nothing but one change after another. And we all know that change is what builds our stress level.

Thank God for the peace of the Holy Ghost.

sis pam

[UPC Lady]

Praise the Lord Ladies! I could write a book on this subject. I began having problems while I was in my 30's, had a D&C then and things got better for awhile. When I turned 40 I began having hot flashes, night sweats and feeling like I was on an emotional roller coaster. Things have steadily progressed concerning menopause for me and now I am to the point of requiring surgery. I've talked to the Lord about it many times and I know beyond the shadow of a doubt He can heal me but if for some reason He chooses not to I will be having a complete hysterectomy soon. I've been very concerned about the emotional part after I have the surgery since it has been so severe already. I have many friends who are older than I am and have already gone through the change and I talk to them about it and that helps. I've tried to take the natural hormones but can't. Lord bless you Sis. Cooper and Sis. Pam, Sis. Glenda

[ddc101]

Sis.Pam,
Did you knoiw there is a syndrome associated with a tubal ligation? Just type it in on Jeeves or a search and see what comes up.I was shocked.The symptoms you related reminded me of this.lv sis.c
Hi sis.Glenda,
I really miss our chats.Guess who is preaching our ladies conference in June? sis.Randall.I just saw her at Walmart!!sis.c

[witness4jesus]

I was aware of some of the complications previously to having it, but I was on welfare at the time, and it seemed like the best option. Given that choice again, it is not one I would have made.

sis pam

[committed]

Hi Ladies,
I had a hysterectomy when I was 31, and started in menapause about a year later. I still am in it (and I am 53) IN the last year I started having the hot flashes...whew!! I am a very hot natured person, so it really bothers me. About depression......having had a bad childhood, I have suffered with it most of my life, so I can't really tell which is for what!! But since I have had the Holy Ghost (28 yrs) I have only had it for a few hours at a time.....My God has been so good to me, that I just cannot let those things get me down. I think what we all must do in those times is just start counting our blessings. I, of anyone here, deserve God's goodness less! But I am soooooooooo thankful. Because I did not have any kind of decent childhood........when I got in church my husband and I decided we would do all we could to raise our kids to love the Lord and hang in there....and we have been soooooooooo blessed. All three of them are living for God, never have backslid, and now 3 of my 7 grandchildren have the Holy Ghost and are baptized in Jesus Name! So when I get down, I think on these things........and if I had to be depressed 24/7, and my children lived for God, it would be worth it.

[ddc101]

Sister Committed,
I looked at that post and then I had to do a double take on the picture.You are so beautiful and young.I would never have believed your age.The Lord has been good to you.lv sis.c

[NanaRenan]

Hi Ladies,
I had a hysterectomy when I was 31, and started in menapause about a year later. I still am in it (and I am 53) IN the last year I started having the hot flashes...whew!! I am a very hot natured person, so it really bothers me.
I am so hot-natured now that my husband predicts if I ever have a hot flash I'll just burst into flames!

I had a hysterectomy at 27, but they left one ovary. Evidently it is still functioning, or else I've been in menopause for years and didn't know it.

Either way! Praise the Lord, He'll see me through! Right?

[ddc101]

Sister I also am functioning on one but lately the studies I have read tell me its not enough.So go and get a level drawn at the gyn.lv sis.c

[Melody]

I went straight from being pregnant at 42 into menopause. What I thought was post-partum was menopause.

[NanaRenan]

I went straight from being pregnant at 42 into menopause. What I thought was post-partum was menopause.

Oh, Sister Melody!!! I just got weak-kneed and queasy at the thought of being pregnant at 42! :huh:


Pam<-----will be 42 in July

[Melody]

Oh, Sister Melody!!! I just got weak-kneed and queasy at the thought of being pregnant at 42! :huh:


Pam<-----will be 42 in July
I was thrilled. That was the only pregnancy I carried long enough to have a baby. My son is 10 years old now and his adopted sister is 9.

[NanaRenan]

I was thrilled. That was the only pregnancy I carried long enough to have a baby. My son is 10 years old now and his adopted sister is 9.

What blessings they must be! My sister is your age and was never able to get pregnant and not able to adopt. It's hard.

I was just mentally tacking that on to the 23 years I've already been parenting and had visions of 'starting over"!! LOL

With a nearly 6 y/o granddaughter, I can't imagine being a mother, myself, at this age.

Lord bless you and give you strength!!

[Melody]

What blessings they must be! My sister is your age and was never able to get pregnant and not able to adopt. It's hard.

I was just mentally tacking that on to the 23 years I've already been parenting and had visions of 'starting over"!! LOL

With a nearly 6 y/o granddaughter, I can't imagine being a mother, myself, at this age.

Lord bless you and give you strength!!

Both of my children are miracles. I had 5 miscarriages and was told when I was 4 months pregnant with my son that I had lost him too and needed a D/C. My husband and I prayed all night and I kept singing that song. "Victory, Victory shall be mine." The next day the ultrasound showed that he was still there. I spent months in the hospital and on bed rest at home. And then when they did a test at 7 months where they had to put a needle in my uterus to test his lung development the placenta was punctured and I had to have an emergency C-section.
But even as a preemie, he did well. He weighed 7 pounds.

And my daughter was 3 years old when her mother came to my door and asked me if I wanted another child.

[Anna~]

witness4jesus: Here a great site to check-out! www.earlymenopause.com (http://www.earlymenopause.com)

[Marie]

Thank you Sister C. That is an interesting site. Very helpful. :)

[Seventyx7]

I thought I'd fall off the chair Sister when I read that you'd burst into flames:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: That sounds just like me. My poor husband is freezing to death and I've got the temperture at 68 in the winter and at times a fan going then the weather changes and it's time for the A/C to come on at again 68 degrees.


I too have days of depression. Not like I use too. I had it really bad I noticed when all the kids left home. The empty nest syndrome. All three within 6mo. I told my husband if I had known that they where all going to leave at once I'd had 3 more.:goof: So, I guess that had alot to do with my emotions and then I got thrown into it I guess. I have been going through it now for about 3 years. I started early close to 45. I did think I was backslid just like the sister said. I couldn't focus or pray or anything. I know I put alot of people through it but, hey, I couldn't help it. I'll be there for them when they go through it. (DDC) I tried the natural way and it seemed to help some but, then I couldn't tell if it was doing anything to help me, I still had the flashes. So, now I just grin and bare it. :shrug:

Congratulations, on the birth of your baby Sister. I'm happy for you. The Lord is so good!!! My mother was 42 when she had me and boy, was I a blessing to her:banana: :banana: She's dead and gone now and very much missed but, I have a special part in her salvation for the Lord used me to bring her to the Him. So, the Lord has it all in controll and He knows what's best for us. Even if we don't. Enjoy that baby. You never know what is on his shoulders, you may have you a Moses, Abraham, Jacob, or an Isaac.

[Melody]

[font=Book Antiqua][size=4]Congratulations, on the birth of your baby Sister. I'm happy for you. The Lord is so good!!! My mother was 42 when she had me and boy, was I a blessing to her:banana: :banana: She's dead and gone now and very much missed but, I have a special part in her salvation for the Lord used me to bring her to the Him. So, the Lord has it all in controll and He knows what's best for us. Even if we don't. Enjoy that baby. You never know what is on his shoulders, you may have you a Moses, Abraham, Jacob, or an Isaac.

Did your mother live long enough to see her grandchildren. Do you remember any major problems with having an older mother. As you may have read on my earlier post, I was 42 when I had my first child.

[Seventyx7]

I lost both of my parents at a young age. My Dad was 68 when he died. My Mom was 67. I lost them both within a year and a half. Dad had cancer and my poor Mom had chirrosis of the liver. Not from drinking. She had viral hepititis that lead to the damage of her liver. I hate it that my Dad only got to see one of my kids and I was pregnant with the second when he died but, I got to tell him that he was to have another grandchild. My Mom was suppose to have died about 14yrs earlier but, the Lord waited and spared her until I got in church. She got to know this glorious truth and was saved. She only got see our 2 girls for I was pregnant again with our son when she passed away. She had other grandkids that she had with my other brothers and sisters that she enjoyed but, I got the low end of the stick. I hate it for they were wonderful grandparents and my kids never got to see and enjoy them. Don't take this message to be sad one because of your age. There's probably more out there with a happier side to them. But you asked and I told. There's a difference in you and my parents and that's that you have the Lord on your side and He will keep you and let you see your grandkids and enjoy them. So, smile and have at it girl. Make those memories count!!!Enjoy being a "MOM"

[Melody]

I lost both of my parents at a young age. My Dad was 68 when he died. My Mom was 67. I lost them both within a year and a half. Dad had cancer and my poor Mom had chirrosis of the liver. Not from drinking. She had viral hepititis that lead to the damage of her liver. I hate it that my Dad only got to see one of my kids and I was pregnant with the second when he died but, I got to tell him that he was to have another grandchild. My Mom was suppose to have died about 14yrs earlier but, the Lord waited and spared her until I got in church. She got to know this glorious truth and was saved. She only got see our 2 girls for I was pregnant again with our son when she passed away. She had other grandkids that she had with my other brothers and sisters that she enjoyed but, I got the low end of the stick. I hate it for they were wonderful grandparents and my kids never got to see and enjoy them. Don't take this message to be sad one because of your age. There's probably more out there with a happier side to them. But you asked and I told. There's a difference in you and my parents and that's that you have the Lord on your side and He will keep you and let you see your grandkids and enjoy them. So, smile and have at it girl. Make those memories count!!!Enjoy being a "MOM"


Just to let you know My kids never knew any of their grandparents. I lost my mom in 1991 and my dad in 1992 and did'nt have my baby until 1993. My parent's did get to enjoy my brother and sisters children.

[Anna~]

Here a good book to read. The Greatest Experiment Ever Performed On Women, Elploding The Estrogen Myth. By Barbara Seaman.



from the publisher:
"A wake-up call to women about unquestioningly accepting doctors' orders". --Donna Chavez, Booklist, July issue

"Seaman passionately and convincingly argues that women have been unnecessarily put at risk by doctors treating menopause as a disease." --Publishers Weekly

"Barbara Seaman is the first prophet of the women's health movement and her prophesies are still coming true." --Gloria Steinem

"Barbra Seaman started a revolution in women's health by questioning what was taken for granted and meticulously exposing how little had been established about the safety of many common drugs and practices." --Devra Lee David, Ph.D.

"Barbra Seaman is one of the heroines of the women's health movement. She was one of the first people to point out that postmenopausal hormones could be dangerous and has been a relentless fighter for the health of women." --Susan Love, M.D.

"If a menopausal woman has pain or makes trouble, pound her hard on the jaw." --Egyptian medical text, 2000 B.C.
For almost a century women have been taking some form of estrogen to combat the effects of menopause and aging, and more recently to prevent a host of diseases, from osteoporosis to Alzheimer's to heart disease. For most of that hundred years, doctors have been prescribing estrogen in either its organic or synthetic forms, and women have gone to their pharmacists and dutifully filled their prescriptions. In some cases, menopause sufferers who were experiencing the most extreme symptoms were in search of relief from hot flashes, night sweats, dryness, and more, but increasingly in recent years, women began receiving estrogen sometimes with progesterone as "hormone therapy," not because they were in immediate danger of anything but rather as a preventative. But was this regimen warranted? Did doctors know enough about estrogen and its effects to be widely prescribing it for such a range of ailments? Or were women being used as guinea pigs in a great experiment, an experiment the author terms "The Greatest Experiment Ever Performed on Women"?


Since the 1960s, women's health icon Barbara Seaman has been one of the lone voices in journalism to question whether doctors have sufficient justification to be writing so many estrogen prescriptions, or whether it is the pharmaceutical industry that is driving the research, marketing, and use of hormone replacement therapy. In 2002, several important women's health studies revealed that estrogen may cause more problems in patients than it is correcting or preventing, and that in fact it has a dismal record in terms of prevention.

This groundbreaking book illuminates today's "menopause industry," tracing the history of estrogen use from its early purveyors, including a well-meaning British doctor who lost control of the marketing of DES and therefore inadvertently led to the DES baby crisis, to Nazi experimentation with women and estrogen, to the present, and looks at how an experiment of this proportion could have been conducted without oversight, intervention, or real knowledge as to what its effects would be. A women's health advocate for more than forty years, Barbara Seaman is a national judge of the Project Censored Awards, an advanced science writing Fellow at Columbia University's School of Journalism, and the cofounder of the National Women's Health Network, a women's advocacy group in Washington, D.C., that refuses money from the drug industry as part of its charter. A frequent contributor to the New York Times and the Washington Post, she has been either a columnist or contributing editor at the following publications: Ms., Omni, Ladies' Home Journal, Bride's, Family Circle, and Hadassah magazine. She is the author of The Doctors' Case Against the Pill, For Women Only: Your Guide to Health Empowerment, Free and Female, Women and the Crisis in Sex Hormones, and Lovely Me: The Life of Jacqueline Susann. She lives in New York City.

[ddc101]

Susan Sommers although not a christian person has a new book out on how she is dealing with menopause.It discusses a type of hormone replacement therapy that is structured by endocrinologists by each particular womans chemical balance.Neat I thought.I have heard a review on it and not read it myself but I plan to.If someone has please share.lv sis.c

[Rhoni]

Menopause huh? I am just about through it and it has been a ride! Natural things that can help you are: taking Black Cohash twice a day, eases night sweats and hot flashes. As for the mood swings, taking St. Johns Wort is a great mood stabilizing mineral. All these things are natural and over the counter vitamins and minerals.

They weren't enough for me: the only thing that relieved my night sweats and hot flashes and mood swings was being put on hormone replacement therapy HRT. Prem-pro has been a life saver for me. I gained a little weight but I am having peaceful nights.

Blessings, Sis. Rhoni

[prayercloth sis]

I am 41 and I have been having the mood swings and the hot flashes for 5 years....but so far that's all...as if that weren't enough...

Thanks for all of the great advice...will be checking it all out..

I keep 2 fans on me at all times...and the Ac around 65....thank God my husband is hot natured as well...

The kids get a lil chilly from time to time...

please rember me in all of your prayers....I will truly appreciate...

My Mother passed away 7 years ago...my eldest sister...didn't have to go through the change...or so she says, she's 13 years my elder...and my middle sister just started with the hot flashes....shes 10 years older than I.

I remember Mom saying she started going through the change at 32 as well as her Mom did....

My doctor keeps telling all is alright...but he doesn't wake up hot and sweaty....

taking vitamins and other stuff when I don't forget too...do fairly well when i do not forget...

Thanks for the thread...I need you all....

God's Blessings to you...

Sis B...aka Rhonie

[prayercloth sis]

Menopause huh? I am just about through it and it has been a ride! Natural things that can help you are: taking Black Cohash twice a day, eases night sweats and hot flashes. As for the mood swings, taking St. Johns Wort is a great mood stabilizing mineral. All these things are natural and over the counter vitamins and minerals.

They weren't enough for me: the only thing that relieved my night sweats and hot flashes and mood swings was being put on hormone replacement therapy HRT. Prem-pro has been a life saver for me. I gained a little weight but I am having peaceful nights.

Blessings, Sis. Rhoni


Just had to tell you I love your name...my sister's called me Rhonie as a child...my name is Rhonda...my sister's named me after the Beach Boys hit..Help me Rhonda...

God Bless you

Rhonie...or Sis B

[Rhoni]

Just had to tell you I love your name...my sister's called me Rhonie as a child...my name is Rhonda...my sister's named me after the Beach Boys hit..Help me Rhonda...

God Bless you

Rhonie...or Sis B

That is so cool! MY name is Rhonda and I never had a nickname. My mother named me after Rhonda Flemming in 1957! I gave myself the nickname Rhoni two years ago and I kind of like it!

All my old boyfriends always sang me that song..."Help. help me Rhonda..." and "Me and my RC" Rhonda Cyprus or Royal Crown Cola...sure makes me sound old doesn't it! LOL.

Nice to meet you Rhonda!

Blessings, Rhoni

[ddc101]

haha...I looked back and it seems I first posted in this topic
I am getting more into the change now at 44.But anyway I am excited
about what God is doing in my life.I notice though that my pulse is much
slower.lv sis.c